My Dating Game

Since I don’t need my game no more hahahahah, I’ll give you a little insight into my “game”… and yes, like it or not….its a game. Its tiring but either play along or play with yourself! hahahahah…..here it is:

  1. 1.

    Not every girl is going to like me…..but thats ok. There’s plenty of fish in the sea. But you have to equip yourself properly laa.

  2. 2.

    Keep the first date light and simple…talk about easy topics

  3. 3.

    Figure her out. what kind of girl is she? more traditional? out-going? Once you know, you can “plan” your approach.

  4. 4.

    Be funny! not stupid funny…..this is where you gotta figure her out. Don’t force your joke and don’t tell joke like “i know this joke…..”. You wanna keep her at ease.

  5. 5.

    Make the first date about her…not me…why? coz the more I talk about myself the more I may reveal about my slip-ups, weird habits etc….of course she’ll find out some day but first goal is to get her to like me…not to scare her off

  6. 6.

    No touching! if shes interest, her body language will show if shes interest. Again, no touching.

  7. 7.

    Don’t ask 2 many questions! Its not an interview.

  8. 8.

    Show that you enjoy her company but maintain control over the entire date.

  9. 9.

    Practice, practice, practice!

  10. 10.

    My overall goal for a date would be: To figure her out and make her fall for me without she thinking that I’m into her.

  11. 11.

    After the date: I usually don’t call right after….maybe a couple of days….you don’t wanna be desperate.

All in all, there are no clear guidelines…… its all about playing your game right…and you gotta be able to suit your game towards your opponent (your date lah)…. you are not always going to win….but no matter how good you are, or not, you only need to win once….. :)

Kevin Zahri

I am a US certified personal trainer and nutritionist with over 12 years experience. Over the years, I have published over 10 books, written for Men's Health, other fitness and lifestyle magazines, hosted TV shows and appeared on various TV shows, programs and magazines. I am also an avid corporate wellness speaker and web entrepreneur.

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  • saudara

    So tambah “relationship consultant” to your expertise? Boleh pakai kot :) Fasal “be yourself”, mesti, dari awal2 lagi, kalau tak, takkan nak berlakon selama-lamanya. Kalau “yourself” tak bagus, then kenalah improve “yourself” in the first place kan.Tapi, Kev, kalau base on your TV appearance so far, bab masak, nyanyi dan menari, hmmm, you kena masuk kelas dulu, cari certification, baru boleh percaya kot ;)

  • saudara

    So tambah “relationship consultant” to your expertise? Boleh pakai kot :) Fasal “be yourself”, mesti, dari awal2 lagi, kalau tak, takkan nak berlakon selama-lamanya. Kalau “yourself” tak bagus, then kenalah improve “yourself” in the first place kan.

    Tapi, Kev, kalau base on your TV appearance so far, bab masak, nyanyi dan menari, hmmm, you kena masuk kelas dulu, cari certification, baru boleh percaya kot ;)

  • Kevin Zahri

    hahahah i’ll stick to what i’m good at….everything else is just for fun!

  • Kevin Zahri

    hahahah i’ll stick to what i’m good at….everything else is just for fun!

  • Anonymous

    So what’s the next move after you get the fish? How do we make sure the love last ’till death do us apart”?Why hide ur weaknesses? Don’t u think love means accepting both the good and bad things about someone? If one of the couple gets fat, or crippled, sanggup ke pasangannya terus berada di sisi?How can we the passion won’t fade with time?

  • Anonymous

    So what’s the next move after you get the fish?
    How do we make sure the love last ’till death do us apart”?
    Why hide ur weaknesses? Don’t u think love means accepting both the good and bad things about someone?
    If one of the couple gets fat, or crippled, sanggup ke pasangannya terus berada di sisi?
    How can we the passion won’t fade with time?

  • Kevin Zahri

    after you get the “fish”, you need to make sure (if possible) that its stays with you….why hide your weaknesses? coz your goal (during the first date or 2) is for her to raise her interest level in you…for that you gotta sell your good attributes….its kinda like what good ads do..they tell you the good things to get you interested…then you wanna know more….if you immediately show youe weaknesses, you may turn her off!

  • Kevin Zahri

    after you get the “fish”, you need to make sure (if possible) that its stays with you….

    why hide your weaknesses? coz your goal (during the first date or 2) is for her to raise her interest level in you…for that you gotta sell your good attributes….its kinda like what good ads do..they tell you the good things to get you interested…then you wanna know more….if you immediately show youe weaknesses, you may turn her off!

  • Kevin Zahri

    How can we know the passion won’t fade with time? its simple: YOU DON’T! but you gotta have faith and make that commitment with someone you know (hope) will stick with you and you will stick with her. I don’t think its easy but not one said it was going to be ;)

  • Kevin Zahri

    How can we know the passion won’t fade with time? its simple: YOU DON’T! but you gotta have faith and make that commitment with someone you know (hope) will stick with you and you will stick with her.

    I don’t think its easy but not one said it was going to be ;)

  • muidlatif

    Yo Kev, nice tips. it do make sense that sometimes people ask to much on first date like a reporter ;). sometimes i got so irritated i ask to visit moedlatifdotcom. If you’re free, do watch Cinta, the movie with your girl. Nice local film. Cheers,Muid

  • muidlatif

    Yo Kev, nice tips. it do make sense that sometimes people ask to much on first date like a reporter ;). sometimes i got so irritated i ask to visit moedlatifdotcom. If you’re free, do watch Cinta, the movie with your girl. Nice local film.

    Cheers,
    Muid

  • Kevin Zahri

    will do muid! were you involved with the flick?

  • Kevin Zahri

    will do muid! were you involved with the flick?

  • Anonymous

    Isn’t that like a white lie… telling the truth but not all the truth? Or worse… acting good when you actually are not like that? Isn’t true love means you have to accept not partially but merely everything about your spouse? The good and bad? I can only see true love in blind people. Or very old couple who have experienced the sweetness and bitterness of love. Accepting each other’s weaknesses. Love should not be build by looking at the bright side only. I have not been quite successful with my relationships several times. In fact, like u said, when she knows the our weaknesses, she won’t get turned on. But that’s ok for me. The girl who can accept my weaknesses (including my having a handicapped brother) is yet to be looked for. Never mind if I have to be a ‘musang berjanggut’. I am looking for a wife, not just a girlfriend.

  • Anonymous

    Isn’t that like a white lie… telling the truth but not all the truth? Or worse… acting good when you actually are not like that? Isn’t true love means you have to accept not partially but merely everything about your spouse? The good and bad? I can only see true love in blind people. Or very old couple who have experienced the sweetness and bitterness of love. Accepting each other’s weaknesses. Love should not be build by looking at the bright side only. I have not been quite successful with my relationships several times. In fact, like u said, when she knows the our weaknesses, she won’t get turned on. But that’s ok for me. The girl who can accept my weaknesses (including my having a handicapped brother) is yet to be looked for. Never mind if I have to be a ‘musang berjanggut’. I am looking for a wife, not just a girlfriend.

  • Kevin Zahri

    well said “anonymous”.Strength n weaknesses are what we are. Trust me, when it comes to attracting the opposite sex, weaknesses (usually) don’t work for you in the beginning….sure we all have them….but I would focus on showing me good attributes first, make a good n lasting impression so that the person (gf or wife to be) would want to get to know me better.Its like war…..you wanna show your “enemy” your strength, although you both know that you have weaknesses.

  • Kevin Zahri

    well said “anonymous”.

    Strength n weaknesses are what we are. Trust me, when it comes to attracting the opposite sex, weaknesses (usually) don’t work for you in the beginning….

    sure we all have them….but I would focus on showing me good attributes first, make a good n lasting impression so that the person (gf or wife to be) would want to get to know me better.

    Its like war…..you wanna show your “enemy” your strength, although you both know that you have weaknesses.

  • Kevin Zahri

    BUT what is a weakness is another question!Confidence is a strength? Depends how you manage it and bertempat la- cockiness and poyoness is a WEAKNESS in my books- so is lack of confidenceIs how you manage yourself kot…

  • Kevin Zahri

    BUT what is a weakness is another question!

    Confidence is a strength? Depends how you manage it and bertempat la
    – cockiness and poyoness is a WEAKNESS in my books
    – so is lack of confidence

    Is how you manage yourself kot…

  • Anonymous

    poyoness? apa tu?

  • Anonymous

    poyoness? apa tu?

  • Anonymous

    cliche.

  • Anonymous

    cliche.

  • Kayne

    Wow…all the tips, cayalah. Hey people, when it comes to the dating game Kevin is not bullshitting lah.
    He has all the experiences. Just look at how good he looks. I don’t think you guys come close. Be real okay!

  • Kayne

    Wow…all the tips, cayalah. Hey people, when it comes to the dating game Kevin is not bullshitting lah.
    He has all the experiences. Just look at how good he looks. I don’t think you guys come close. Be real okay!

  • hey Kayne….its not about the looks. Its about self-belief! :D

    Thats why rich dudes are so “attractive” to women…the money gives them self-belief (or is it self-believe hahah)

  • hey Kayne….its not about the looks. Its about self-belief! :D

    Thats why rich dudes are so “attractive” to women…the money gives them self-belief (or is it self-believe hahah)